I feel like I am in a very similar situation as the other guys in the thread. I don't tell him a lot of times what is on my mind because of the way he acts. Me, my well is dried up. So unhappy in my marriage (36 Posts) ... but in the last couple of weeks I have joined a couple of dance/exercise keep fit groups and I am going out on my own much more with friends hoping he will take the hint. This makes me feel even more isolated. … no matter how much you sleep. Feeling: I felt regretful and embarrassed; Automatic thoughts: I know my boss hates me now. Rest in His Word and pray in faith that you will experience restoration in your marriage relationship. I can not find joy in anything. Do not do this to yourself. Even a hug now and then would help me feel less awful. Depression stems from feeling like you have insufficient power. Re: Depressed, Lonely, Sexually Frustrated. I no longer have any mental, emotional or physical energy to give. He went to bed tonight and I had tears in my eyes from him being grouchy before he went to bed. Ask Your Own Mental Health Question. I remember feeling confused because I couldn’t reconcile my loneliness. Every time I tell him I feel lonely in our marriage, he either ignores me or says I’m insecure. He goes out to his job and gets his batteries re-energized. I could cry everyday but I just work at building up my business so I can leave. My belief is that, at least as often, undiagnosed depression antedates and causes divorce. I feel terrible everyday. We all crave deep and lasting connections with other people. I have had worsts of fights and now we have stopped fighting as well. With professional assistance and dedication, you and your spouse can rekindle the love you thought was lost forever. I feel me n my spouse are just not meant to be with each other. References: Farris, M. (2017). but reading your story reminded me so much of what im going through. Depressed, Lonely, Sexually Frustrated. I feel so lonely and disconnected from my husband and I can feel myself pulling away from him. I am afraid of being a single parent but also don’t want to live an unhappy life with someone who supposedly wants to be with me… abby says: June 5, 2014 at 7:34 pm Sadly I have to say after 7 yrs of marriage I just cant do it anymore. Im in retail and I feel so lonely and bored. My husband has sucked everything out of me. I am currently overweight, and although in good relationship, I am feeling so lonely. I have had three serious relationships in my life: my current, my ex-husband that I was married to for 13 years, and my high school sweetheart. by Laserbrain » Sat Mar 16, 2013 5:50 pm . I’m so unhappy and lonely but feel trapped because I have three very young children and he is a good dad. Please let me know if you have had any progress. Thinking when did all this happen to make my wife emotionally vacuous and hateful towards me. 1 month ago. Lonely in my marriage. I am not stupid. I have wanted to get out for many years now but I never have the money to leave. My husband makes me feel so lonely. Reply Link. I just came out of a manic state so now I am depressed. I just feel stuck, doing the same boring retail work daily, while having no friends or anything to look forward to my weekends. Category: Mental Health. Forum rules . I am not a label. "I was lonely. 95 95. God will always be there with you! In the last 2 years or so we grew distant and the intimacy has become almost none-existing. No real life friends, 2-3 good online friends but I don't play with them often. “I am so depressed and lonely in my marriage,” one of my clients was telling me the other day. Show Less. Now i don’t care if I live or die. We are poles apart. He ignores me all the time to play stupid games. Seeing doctor and taking antidepressants. I really thought I would marry the first guy; I was so naive. We don't have any kids. Marriage is being together more then ever, so why are you feeling lonely? I w ill never cheat on him and I want to save our marriage and make it better. I am unhappy and lonely but perhaps - foolishly - I hope that this will improve one day. I am 5 months pregnant with our first child. No matter how isolated or lonely you may feel in your marriage, cling to God! I feel exactly the same. I am just throwing it out there, if its helpful, if not. He told me to “come here” so I went and sat on his side of the bed as he lay there. Maybe you got married thinking your life would be more complete and fulfilling. He does not notice this and he thinks that we are just fine. After all, we know that loneliness in marriage can create new problems, leading a greater sense of despair and depression, over use of alcohol, drug use, even affairs. Going through the following list can function as a kind of “loneliness test.” You’re still exhausted when you wake up. I get up in a cold sweat after 15 years of marriage, in an empty bed, dark room. Depressed, Lonely, Sexually Frustrated. Quiz Are you depressed? I'm so lonely in my marriage. He switched jobs so I won't have health insurance for 60 days. I wasn’t desired or wanted by anyone, career or private life," the model says of battling anxiety and depression during her marriage. I'm so depressed and lonely. What can mere mortals do to me?” – Hebrews 13:5-6. Link. I did everything possible to fix this. Here is another example: Event: I forgot to sign the birthday card for my boss. So do better. This is exactly where I am at in my life, marriage and relationships. I saw my husband every day. Feeling trapped + lonely in my marriage. I am so lonely and lost.” Do you feel the same way she does – lonely in your marriage, lost, insecure, disappointed? We seemed to communicate well. Thoughts: I am so stupid. My husband and I can't seem to communicate. 21 posts • Page 1 of 3 • 1, 2, 3. Vinny June 22, 2015, 7:48 am. If you’re worried you might be suffering from depression, it’s important to seek appropriate help. If you are living in a loveless marriage, it is important to remember that help is available. About my soaring, loving marriage of 28 years, people frequently say: “You’re soooo lucky!” As I’ve written before , I don’t believe that luck is the key to a good marriage; hard work is. I know this is common, but we don't even have any kids, yet my frustration is unbearable, sometimes we can hardly stand each other. I'm almost at the point now where i think i should just end the marriage and start a new life. I am still trying to sort my issues with my hub out, but out of everything ive read on here,. This knowledge can ultimately help you figure out what is making you sad and how to address it. I am worried about my marriage. Hello, My situation is complicated without writing an extremely long post so I will try to stick to the key points (which is still pretty long...sorry). When I found myself at the very sobering place of loneliness in my marriage, I thought of so many things that could be the culprit for my feelings. Why Am I Lonely? I didn’t understand why I was lonely in our marriage. I've made so many financial mistakes in the past and can't forgive myself. Even so, many couples find themselves in that sad situation over time. Add message | Report | See all. Open Discussions about Marriage and Divorce. Authored by Gillian Harvey Reviewed by Dr Sarah Jarvis MBE. Forum rules. its been 7 years of my marriage but the loneliness kills me. I see people hang out all the time and go to lunch together, I just sit by myself like usual. Answered in 35 minutes by: 8/3/2011. She wanted to know how to overcome loneliness in her marriage. I try each day but I cry each night. So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. Quiz: Am I depressed? Lonely in my marriage. I am just getting older. So, here I am up a 4:30 am, alone in my bed as usual. Nothing help, my marriage is like living with roommate, no communication, no love, My husband is untisocial and I lost most of my friends,because of this, over the years. This quiz will help you to establish whether you’re experiencing some of the tell-tale signs of a mental health condition. Hi. To me life is for living and I don’t want to stay in every night and all weekend existing like I am in a care/rest home. 21 posts • Page 2 of 3 • 1, 2, 3. ... it was hard for me to accept he was depressed. I second the physical touch (and everything else she suggested). He seems perfectly content with this status quo. It is not nice and very hard to overcome when no one is there to help you keep your chin up. Show More. Submitted: 9 years ago. I never thought you could be so lonely in a marriage, if it wasn't for my family and friends i don't know what i would do. I think I also rely on him for my own happiness too much. Maybe I just messed it up somewhere down the road and now I am paying for it. Rational thought: I am not my thoughts or behaviors. I made a mistake and will do better in the future. Share this conversation. Open Discussions about Marriage and Divorce. What is isolation? Learn from my errors. Depressed, Lonely, Sexually Frustrated. Your marriage can be disabled by boredom and apathy, and even die from emotional malnutrition and neglect. Jump to Latest Follow Status Not open for further replies. A s humans, we are not meant to be isolated. It's … By Anonymous, 1 month ago on Being Married. Being told what to do conveys that the other person is the boss and you are a servant. Lonely, that’s not really what you should feel in a marriage. Heather just found this site good to know I’m not alone.Lost my wonderful husband of 50 years on Jan.2,2018 to cancer.Managed to keep him home TIL 4 days before he passed but he was not a complainer and we didn’t realize how sick he was we got to say our goodbyes.I am so miserable without him as we were inseparable.Get mad when I see couples together.We had so many plans especially for … Personally - and I am not being a martyr - I couldn't create the havoc a seperation would cause in my children's lives. But we know it’s possible to feel alone in the middle of a crowd, and it’s possible to sleep in the same bed with someone for years and still feel lonely. I'm 32 and been married for 7 years. I fall emotionally constantly and am battling. I am 39 and have been on anti-depressants for about 6 years. i am lonely in my marriage. I'm not friends with anyone at work. No one plans to have a loveless marriage. I failed to develop social skills during the marriage because i focused on depression and counseling as I isolated. by blurrytree » Thu Jan 06, 2011 6:46 pm . But what do i do? We are in our own worlds just doing our duties to keep the marriage alive. To learn how to stop feeling lonely and depressed, you first need a good grasp of the nature of loneliness.